Friday, October 29, 2010
What's Really There?
Yesterday I was thinking about labels, and how sometimes people who are quick to judge might label the people they are interested in dating. They label them quickly and they date the labels, and in that way people become objectified. Beautiful, shy, rich, emo, athletic, smart, young, artistic, easy ... and those people who label and objectify don't seem to care or bother with what's underneath. That makes a person feel hollow. That's why it always feels unnatural and wrong to go on a date with someone you don't know or who doesn't seem to bother much with wanting to know what's happening with you. I often wonder if they think it doesn't matter, or if they don't have the capacity to understand that other people are just as complex as they are, or if they just don't care. It's mostly on the surface, and it's probably doomed to fail. Or maybe they're not complex, and that's the whole problem.
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Terrific post. Despite our complexities, I tend to think that in a social sense we humans, generally, are fairly shallow. We're impatient, and rely on lables to help us sort through things we worry may cause us to feel uncomfortable. Working through social awkwardness takes some time, some effort and some interst in others. And those things are far too lacking these days.
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